"Hey, baby you wanna?" No.

Let's talk about something that has been bothering me lately:

The need for men to treat women like nothing more than an object of desire. A sex toy. Property.

I mean you name it, and people have probably treated me like that, and I'm just curious as to why? I will admit that in the past, that was the image I put out. I wanted to be desired and wanted that kind of attention because I thought that was the only way to be close to someone. That was, and still is, after all what the media portrays as desirable. And men want that. But none of the right ones.

I've noticed lately that even as I started to clean up my appearance by wearing less revealing clothing and keeping myself out of situations or places where the men that want nothing more than to take some poor girl home and sleep with her only to forget about her in the morning. Does this somehow make you cool? Is it a point of pride around your friends in the same way that having your team win in the Superbowl is? I'm honestly curious. But anyway, back to my original point. I've noticed that even though I have made this change in my appearance, people still treat me like that. Everything about their manner of speech, or their interactions with me (either via text/Facebook or face to face conversation) always leave me wondering what I have done to make them think talking to me like that is okay.

Sure, I'm flirtatious by nature. I've always known that about myself, but people I've never met before always have something sexual to say about me. Do you talk like that around/to other girls? Do they give off a "hey I'm looking for a good time," vibe? Am I unwittingly doing the same?

But for real. Girls, don't put up with that. I'm getting sick and tired of it myself. We deserve respect, and if they refuse to give it, don't give them the time of day.

I'm not going to stand for the "how bout you and me go somewhere private," or "let's do such and such a thing, naked."Or just the looks that people give me when they say something sexual. Pisses. Me. Off. I don't know what I've done to make them think this, so if you have any ideas, or this happens to you, please tell me. I'm honestly curious.

What happened to the concept of monogamy?

If you really care about someone, you call them your friend, don't treat women like that. Same goes for girls. Don't treat men like they're a piece of meat. And don't let them treat you like that.

Respect yourself, and they will respect you.

If they don't, kick them to the curb.

Quickly.